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Why I Stopped Sharing Publicly (And Why I’m Starting Again)

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There was a time when I was sharing more—through blogs, social channels, and developer communities. I loved writing about what I was learning, building, and wrestling with. Connecting with others felt natural and energizing.

But then I went quiet.

The Quiet Came in Three Acts

1. Professional Burnout

Working as a full-time software engineer felt like running a never-ending marathon. Between new frameworks, tight deadlines, and bug hunts, my creative energy was drained. Writing became just one more checkbox in a long list of tasks.

2. Life Happened (In the Best Way)

Around the same time, I also...

  • Got married.
  • Welcomed my first child.

These are milestones of joy and transformation—but they are also all-consuming. My focus shifted inward, toward deepening these new roles. In that whirlwind, I craved stillness more than visibility.

3. Identity Drift

The longer I stayed silent, the more I questioned myself:

  • Do I still have something worth sharing?
  • Can I keep up with the rapidly changing tech landscape?
  • Who am I writing for anymore?

Those doubts kept me locked in silence longer than I intended.

What Changed—and Why I’m Coming Back

Now, I’m on the other side of those shifts. I’ve been feeling a quiet pull to return—to connect, explore, and reflect publicly again. I miss:

  • Documenting the messy middle of projects.
  • Sharing small wins and subtle setbacks.
  • Engaging in thoughtful conversations sparked by writing.

But this time, things are shifting.

Establishing a New Rhythm

Here’s what I’ve learned:

  • I don’t need to share everything.
  • I don’t need to be an expert to add value.
  • I can show up slowly and steadily.
  • I can be human over polished.

My life is still full—partner, parent, builder, thinker. But there’s a new type of space: one for honest expression, curiosity, and reflection.

That’s exactly what this blog is for.

If you’ve ever felt similarly—overwhelmed, in transition, or unsure of your voice—know you’re not alone. It’s okay to pause. It’s okay to retreat. It’s also more than okay to return.

So... here I am. Back.

Welcome—to me, to us.